Cooper Beckett, from the podcast Life on the Swingset, has been a friendly voice in my head for two years now. We’ve shared many interactions online and even geeked out together at a Sex Geekdom Chicago event. He’s a wonderful contributor in my circle of sex geeks.
I read a lot of resource material more so than reading for pleasure. But with a subject like non-monogamy, how could I say no?
When I started the book I figured it would be this positive tale of a couple dipping their toes into the swinging lifestyle. Fun, sexy stories. I’m not sure why I was so surprised to see the growing pains presented that regularly come along with opening up a relationship. In retrospect, the growing pains pulled me much more deeply into the story as I saw a lot of my own experience of opening my previous marriage portrayed.
I have to admit, reading this brought back a lot of negative feelings I obviously still need to process from my experience two years ago when my then husband and I added a third partner to our sex life. It got complicated with feelings and jealousy and all the “fun” stuff.
Thank you, Cooper, for keeping it real. I felt like maybe what I experienced was quite normal and I could really relate to the main characters. The growing pains are real, people!
A Life Less Monogamous: A Novel About Swinging was a sexy read filled with a lot of heart. I can’t wait for any follow-ups, as he’s hinted to a “series”. Oh joy!