I Like Experimenting – Lately it’s in BDSM

I love that I am in a time in my life where I can choose whatever adventure I fancy.  Last weekend, for example, I decided I wanted to experience fire on my body.  Under the care of a very experienced practitioner, I experienced fire cupping and dabbled in some other fire play.  Fire cupping involves using fire to heat the air inside a cup that is then placed on your skin.  As the air in the cup cools, it forms a suction to your skin.  It is a ancient therapy, but I mainly just tried it to see what it felt like as I had watched it done before.  As far as other fire play, it is interesting to know there are items being lit on fire on my skin, with many safety precautions in place.  These are things I had seen done before to others.   Though I wasn’t able to witness it on myself, I did feel it.  Why would I do such things?  Because I wanted to know what it felt like.  Do I need another reason?

BDSM stands for Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism.   You don’t have to be into all of those things.  And the range of kinks goes all over the board.  There is an endless opportunity for new experiences.  Note that many in the kink world don’t mix BDSM with sex ever.

Over the last 4 months I have experimented in many forms of BDSM.  The benefit of the public space I attend is that there is zero sex allowed.  So it is a very safe environment to explore.  I have been careful in picking my partners, always picking people in the community with a lot of experience.  I want to learn with the best.  I don’t want to have an unnecessary negative experience.  I started in rope bondage.  I have dabbled in some impact and knife play, meaning I have let a partner use such tools as floggers, paddles, whips and knives on me.  Now I can add fire to my list.  Oh, and electricity!  A few weeks ago I experienced something called a violet wand and last weekend I had a friend put a TENS (Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation) unit on my back so I could experience involuntary muscle contractions.

For the sex geek in me, experiencing so many things in the BDSM world has been amazing!  There are classes held on topics all across the board.  I keep my brain full of new information, whether I think I will actually ever use it or not.

There is one thing that has taken me the most time to understand, and surely the best lesson so far.  There is magic in a quality D/s relationship.  (D/s is an abbreviation for dominance and submission.)  It is difficult to explain but it is something you can witness and feel.  There is a connection and intimacy that I haven’t personally witnessed in the regular world.

I walked into my first munch (meeting with kinksters over dinner) a little over 6 months ago.  I found my tribe that day.  I didn’t know it at the time.  I was actually almost scared off.  But I went back.  I found a home in a family of kinksters.  We are all just regular people who haven’t been afraid to follow or find our interests.  Some need BDSM and some just enjoy BDSM.  But they are all beautiful people.  I am honored they welcomed me into their circle and I look forward to continuing to choose my own adventure.

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