My motto: Have sex on the first date, you may not like each other by the second.
Seriously. If the chemistry is right, why not?
Now, this is assuming you want to have sex. This is also assuming that you don’t have personal issues with casual sex. It is ok if you do. I’m not going to say you must have first date sex. But what I want to say is it is OK if you want to have first date sex.
There is plenty of advice on the internet about waiting for the third date. There is plenty of advice on waiting until marriage. (I beg you not to do that!) I don’t know that I have seen an overwhelming amount of advice for 1st date sex.
Here’s my advice:
Take a few minutes to watch Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross give excellent, empowering advice in this video:
Whatever you decide to do, it is your decision. Never have sex because you feel pressured! Only have sex because it feels right for you, 1st date or 40th date. More importantly, never assume a partner is going to have sex with you, 1st date or 40th!
**Edited to add: A warning… a reader pointed out that women produce more Oxytocin (the bonding hormone) than men and should be warned that this hormone can make you susceptible to “the love bug”. So proceed with caution. If that is a concern, read about how to avoid “the love bug” here.