It went something like this:
- Fairly attractive man contacts me.
- I engage him in conversation for long enough (a good portion of my morning) that he suggest we meet.
- I agree.
- He starts to back pedal.
- I see the red flag and ask a few questions, the first being, “Is your profile pic your actual picture?”
- Nope. Thanks. Now I don’t feel like I know who I’ve been talking to. Obviously, I didn’t really know who he was, but now it is the first deception. That is where I bow out.
Today is one of those days when I am so frustrated with a certain dating site that I consider disabling my profile again. Actually, it’s the fucktards on that site that frustrate me, not the site. In reality, if I can just see the entertainment value and put some basic rules down for myself, it could probably be kept as a useful option, as I have met a few good matches on this site. So what would that look like?
Michelle’s NEW rules for engaging with online dating:
- They must be local enough that I would drive to see them. For me, that is no more than an hour and probably towards the larger city to the north of me. I prefer more local than that, like within a 15 mile radius.
- I don’t need pen pals so from now on, unless we quickly bond with great, interesting conversation, I’m not even paying them any attention. To make an exception, I have to find them to be an asset to my life. I have met a few people that fit this criteria. Someone I can learn something from. Otherwise, nope.
- They can be “not local” if they are in town for business, but they better speak up quickly and be really attractive.
- They get these quick questions, right off the bat, and I am sorry I have to ask these but most don’t fill out their details for a reason: 1. Is this your actually picture? 2. How tall are you? 3. Do you have nice teeth?
I think that is a starting point. Stay tuned… Next up, how to scare
a this girl away in a few easy steps!