I stood in the mirror this morning, applying warm coconut oil to my silky, freshly shaved skin. I love the feel of my own skin. I looked at my body in the mirror, admiring what I saw. I’m not a size 16 plus sized (photo shopped) swim suit model but I still love myself just as I am. I love the curves of my body. I love the feel of my skin. (I will admit, sometimes pictures still bring up negative feelings. I’m not perfect.)
I went to my closet and I picked out a pair of panties, knowing that tonight I very well could get partially naked at a BDSM play party. Something about considering that when getting dressed is kind of fun.
In a previous post, I wrote about ways I have learned to appreciate my body, just as it is. Today I want to add another exercise that continues to heal me. Today I want to talk more about being partially naked in public, non-sex situations. I wrote about it in “Fun with Ropes…” Joining the local BDSM community as well as kink/fetish online communities, I have gained an extra appreciation for my body. I can witness people loving on bodies just like mine, boosting my confidence. I can put myself out there without fear of criticism. The community embraces all body types, all sizes. It is really one of the most loving, supportive groups I have been involved in. Is it because they are more sex positive than the general public? I think that plays a huge roll in it. The women in that community take care of each other, in my experience.
I ran across this graphic today and it brought back memories of my weekend in NYC last November when I attended Betty Dodson’s Bodysex workshop. It is the same sisterhood I have in the BDSM community. Betty and Carlin reminded me how important the sisterhood is.
Do you know the sisterhood?