When I was in second grade, a boy passed me a folded up piece of paper. It read, “Will you go with me?” There was an option to circle yes or no. He also sent that same note to two of my friends. We all said yes. Nobody thought anything of it. Of course, it was second grade and honestly, I never even ended up kissing that boy, ever. (It’s still on my to-do list.)
Was that my introduction into polyamory? It surely makes for a cute story about where it all started.
What does it look like to openly date a few people who are also dating a few people? It looks like regular dating except you might meet the other people the other’s are dating. It could even be that the person you are dating is married and you might meet their spouse. That is what makes it “ethical non-monogamy”.
I have a confession though. Because I am sexually free and open, I have a hard time deciphering whether I am dating someone or just fun friends. But really, what is the difference? If we enjoy spending time with each other and we share open and honest communication, does it matter what we call it?