I was an A student. I didn’t study too hard in high school. I didn’t graduate top of my class but I was in the top 10% if I remember correctly. High school came very easy to me, including Chemistry.
Enter dating. I haven’t dated since I was 17. Thankfully, I find it fun to meet new people, because trust me, I will be doing it for a very long time. *smiles* Dating is good for me. It is how I figure out what I am looking for in a mate or mates. I learn a lot about myself, and where my personal strengths and weaknesses are. I also learn a lot about failed relationships, communication styles, and people in general.
The BIGGEST lesson I have learned: Mutual chemistry is hard to find! I have dated (meaning met in person) probably 15-20 people through online dating or in-person introductions. I was attracted to some and the sex was good/great but I don’t necessarily want to see them often or maybe ever again. I have met even less that I felt chemistry with, meaning the sex was good/great and I really want to keep seeing them and often because I really like them. Sometimes the other person is really into me and I’m not that into them. Sometimes I am really into them and they just aren’t that into me. Chemistry is hard! Having, if you will, the stars align and you “clicking” where the other person feels the same – very, very rare, at least for me. Which is why you have to keep meeting people.
How do I meet people? I join clubs/groups so that the people I am meeting already share a common interest. I also use online dating sites. These help me increase the number of people I meet because it really is a numbers game. The more people I meet, the better chance of meeting someone I “click” with. It’s like playing the lotto. You can’t win if you don’t play! Go play!