I Met a Real Life BBW Lover

One day last week I was answering OK Cupid messages and came across a message from an attractive man, but sadly not local.  But because we are a great match, like 97%, and he wrote in complete sentences, I engaged him in an interesting conversation for a chunk of my afternoon.  When it came out that he prefers big, beautiful women (BBW), I had to ask why.  His answer, and this is a quote so if it is a bit too adult for you, my apologies, “BBWs are softer, sexier, jigglier, squishier, and they have more to park on my face.”

I appreciated his words and got a little giggle out of the end.  That was his answer.  What can I say?!

There is something about knowing there are people out there that prefer me just the way I am.  He probably wouldn’t even consider dating me if I was the “perfect” version of me.  That had to sit with me for a bit.  I will even admit that I got a little emotional thinking about the fact that a lot of my insecurities are the reason he is drawn to me.  It leaves one with a lot to think about.

As I stood in the mirror the next day, I looked at myself differently.  While I have a kind heart for myself, I saw myself through someone else’s eyes this time.  I’m not sure, but I might have walked a little taller, too.  I know my confidence got a little extra boost.  Thank you, BBW lover.  You gave a this BBW an extra smile today.

**edited to add**zaftig

I have been questioned whether I am in fact a BBW and not just a BW (beautiful woman).  I don’t know.  I guess that definition depends on the person.  I have never (other than above) labeled myself BBW.   But I am certainly curvy and I definitely fit his description of ” softer, sexier, jigglier, squishier”.  I also don’t know that BBW is a negative label. It was just something to be able to actually ask why BBW is his preference.  I always assume people date me because I am cute, funny, kind, confident, warm, fun…not necessarily because I am “not close to thin”.

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